It’s hard to to keep cool when you wake up in the morning and realize that you have only slept for a few hours and you can’t go back to sleep.
It’s hard to keep cool when you’re hungry, and you found out that there’s no food left for you.
It’s hard to keep cool when a random stranger takes the first cab to come by, even though you waited there first, and you waited there too long.
It’s hard to keep cool when you’re working your ass off for something that’s supposed to be done by someone else.
It’s hard to keep cool when you get caught with the crime, while others get away with it.
It’s hard to keep cool.
It’s hard to keep cool in general. When you’re pissed, there’s something inside you that’s trying to fight it’s way out. You, on the other hand, want to resist, but there’s always that one point when you can’t. A point when you just drop the bomb and make it explode. It’s a normal phenomenon.
As you may know, humanity is built upon sex and aggression. I agree on both. These things are the basic foundations of human behavior. The call for flesh and the call for violence, they’re innate and irresistible. Of course, over time, People have learned to control these instinctive behaviors thanks to civilization and modernization. But up to what extent?
People have different thresholds when it comes to patience. Think if it as a rope. Some have longer ropes. These people are the Hippie types. They find the inner peace in chaotic situations, which I believe as subjective. I envy them for the gift of calmness. I don’t know but probably, the longer they hold their anger, the bigger their anger tank they have inside them, hence the bigger the explosion once they have reached the terminal point. On the other hand, there are also those who have ropes shorter than a kid’s toe. They are very expressive of their anger, regardless of the person/people absorbing the tension. I sometimes get scared with them. I mean, if they get angry in less anger-inducing situations, then what more can they do on worse cases. But why would I be scared if I didn’t do anything wrong, right? Sometimes, it does not matter! LOL. I am like risking my life when I make intense conversations with these people. lol.
There have been many therapeutic ways invented to calm one’s self – walk around, breathe heavy, count sheep,
smash windows, and the likes. In my case, these have never been effective. Thinking about it, the only way to eventually go to a calm state for me is to let go of it in a full blow; display anger; be the incredible hulk that I am. Even though we have different rope lengths, it all boils down to one thing, we all get angry, so don’t fret.
Sometimes, it’s annoying when people tell you to keep calm when you’re really mad. By experience, it actually just adds up to tension. For most cases, the angry person would say this giving you a rhetorical question, ‘Keep my calm when something bad has happened?’ It makes sense lol. Apart from this, It’s also annoying when the discussion becomes a volume competition and does not address the concern. A battle of the fittest. Whoever has made a statement with a higher decibel is the winner. Dumb right? Ugh! Uhhm, fine. I would accept wholeheartedly if you categorize me as short-roped (If that’s a term). lol. Anyway, I guess before this tension adds up to a certain level, take whatever precautions that you can make. Probably, skip the interaction for a while or something to think things through. Whatever applies to you, actually. You, of all people, would know what you feel. It’s up to you. But if you just can’t keep calm because of several reasons, the let it go.
Being mad adds spice and drama . It’s okay to be mad, as long as you have the right reasons to back you up.
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